Thursday, July 02, 2009
Dating Analysis Part IThe concept of dating is fairly new to us pinoys. Dating is something brought about by a series of failures that have significantly diminished the quality of lives for millions and millions of people. It's in our genetic makeup that we would want and need someone to spend our lives with. Thus being said, we should be able to choose who that person would be. That's where dating comes in.
A few years back, I didn't have a clue on what this was for. I was one with the crowd. I thought that when two people go to the mall, it's a date - but no, it's not. For a date to be called a date, both parties must be aware of the parameters of the engagement. The validity of a date often falls on the hands of the woman. A man would ask a woman out for a lot of reasons, but when he asks a woman out alone, more often than not, it means something. It's just up to the woman if it also means something for her. There are three common reasons why dates happen; To know each other, to evaluate one another, and to have fun. A date is something like a job interview that lasts longer. The only difference is that you might be interviewing your future boss.
After a few eye openers, I learned that dates - specifically the first ones are more significant than the ones that would follow. This is the part where the participants are in the dark, not knowing what to say or not to say, what catches each others' attention and what turns them away. The success of this phase secures future dates. This is also the part where people are in their most vulnerable stage - notably more in men than in women - because women, of course, have powers far beyond those of mortal men.
Women would make great spies because they have picked up a lot of espionage skills in dating. Women notice the slightest of hints that would make them like or dislike their date. The quality of the restaurant, the spontaneity of their date's acts, even the difference in their date's voice. But don't get me wrong, some men do notice these things too, but not as good as a woman does. Women react to these things more than men.
When a man asks a woman out, it's a dead giveaway that he likes her. When a woman agrees, however, it doesn't mean that she likes him too, but she is interested in what might happen. Rejection, however, whether upfront or just silent treatment, mean only one thing.- NO. The silent treatment also tells you that she's considerate, but still, NO..
Ultimately, there are not much mistakes that you can commit in a date when respect and honesty is deployed. The most common mistake people make in a date is that people try to make their dates like them. It works sometimes but it sure doesn't get you very far. People should try to know each other and not only flaunt those things that are "likeable" about you. A blanket of honesty nullifies those superhuman skills of women.
People view their imperfections as bad things that should never be brought up, but no, these imperfections, they are the good stuff. It's not the things you're proud of that makes you unique, but your imperfections and how you make it bearable.
Happy dating! :)
~me~ at
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